Our Toy Rule That Saves Our Sanity
How we promote peace, encourage sleep, and decrease anxiety in our kids with one little boundary about toys + how we help keep toys organized.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but one day the kids’ toys will be out of your house, and you’ll miss it.
Or maybe you won’t. I dunno. I’m not you. But I know I will a little bit.
I won’t miss the clutter or the visual overwhelm of the bright multicolored plastic tossed all over our floors. But I’ll miss all it stands for: our little ones’ ages of innocence.

Wait a sec… playroom reality shot:

Okay, that’s better. ๐
(Proof those baskets don’t always stay looking perfect. Messes = little minds learning… remember that.)
Back when Olivia was just a toddler though, we started this one “toy rule” that helped a TON with cutting down on the clutter and helping her sleep better and carving out a space that encouraged peace.
And it was completely by accident.
No toys in the kids’ bedrooms.
I wouldn’t really even call it a “rule”. It’s just a way of living we’ve stuck to the past 7 years.

The result?
- Because our kids don’t have any toys in their rooms, they feel less stimulated and less anxious.
- Because our kids don’t have any toys in their rooms, it communicates that this is a place for sleep and rest during bedtime and naps.
- Because our kids don’t have any toys in their rooms, they’re not tempted to play when what they really need is just a little time out.

To be fair, our kids have books in their rooms, and Olivia has a little trunk of dress-up clothes. We let them take toys to their rooms sometimes but the toys don’t “live” there, so to speak, and they end up right back in our living room toy basket or in the playroom when they’re finished.


I can’t even tell you how much it helps our children rest and recharge and escape from the visual “noise” and for the same reason why eliminating television in the bedroom promotes better sleep.

It’s what works for us, and I know it’s not for everybody.
But if your kiddo constantly seems anxious and overwhelmed or has difficulty sleeping, it is totally worth trying.

That’s pretty much all of the parenting tips you’ll get from this blog because we’re far from perfect and stick to the DIY/decorating. ๐
Do you do anything to make your kids’ rooms places of peace? Or have any tricks you use to cut down on the toy overwhelm?

Here are a few other ideas too, if it helps:
- Toy Organization Printable Labels & Playroom Storage
- Our Favorite Minimalist Baby Gear and Montessori Style Toys
- Video: How We Declutter Toys
- 60+ Gift Ideas for Kids That Aren’t Toys
Also… I’m taking over Apartment Therapy’s Instagram Stories today to give a quick tour of our playroom! Come say hi!



I totally agree with this and we live by it too! My kids only have books in their rooms and every now and then, they bring a toy to sleep with, but like you mentioned, they know the toy doesn’t “live” in their bedroom. Even when we lived in a smaller house and didn’t have playroom, I created a designated space in our living for toys to “live”. It removes the clutter in their bedrooms and helps them associate their bedroom with bedtime. Awesome post! (and thank you for the picture of the messy playroom! makes me feel better :))
This is an interesting idea for those with a spare room. Our rule was always one toy at a time. When you want to play with something else, you completely clean up and put away your current playthings. With five children, that rule worked much better for us.
Can you please send me a link to the rug that is in your playroom? i love it. Also the one in the nursery. Please
Hi Lauren. I am going to tell my daughter about this. My granddaughter’s room is filled with her toys and she does have trouble sleeping. They do have a room that she is making into a play room but sadly my daughter was just diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. She is 35 with a 10 month old and a 5 year old. So if she wants to try this i will definitely do this for her. I know i am a stranger to you but please send up a quick prayer for Christy. She is starting her chemo today.
I love that chenille bedspread in your daughter’s room! Where did you get it?