How to Find Your Decorating Style
6 steps to find your decorating style by examining your personality, your lifestyle, your inspirations, and what you already own to create the home you love. #decoratingstyle #findyourdecoratingstyle
Confession: I don’t have a clue what I’m doing. I don’t have any sort of formal interior design training. If you ask me what my decorating style is, I’ll shrug and say, “I really don’t know.”
But I do know one thing. I know what is “me”. And somehow that works.
This is honestly a hilarious post for me to write because 5 years ago, I felt so lost sifting through my overflowing Pinterest boards as Robert and I were about to move into our first house. Wouldn’t you feel overwhelmed too in this big blank slate?

I had boho and farmhouse and glam and industrial and every kind of decorating style you could imagine crammed into my little room planning folders. And. I. was. so. overwhelmed!
I wasted so much money doing the trial and error thing for a while buying things that weren’t “me” because I didn’t take the time to really decide what my style actually was.
Is this familiar to you? Have you gone through the identity crisis thing? If not, click that little “x” in the corner because this post isn’t for you. If you have, settle in, friend, because I feel ya, and I hope this helps in some way so that you don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over.

Out of all of the thrift projects I’ve done, furniture makeovers I’ve finished, room redesigns we’ve pulled off, the best money-saving advice I can ever give you is this: If you don’t figure out your decorating style first, you will never be totally happy with your home, and you will waste so much time and money trying to work backwards.
Okay, whew! That was long-winded, but I had to tell you that because I eventually had to tell myself the same thing. Want to know how to break out of that though? Here we go…
How to Find Your Decorating Style:
1. Look for commonalities among your inspiration photos.
When I first tried to figure out my style, I looked through my home inspiration Pinterest boards to try and decipher traits many of them had in common.

And I discovered most of the photos had these:
- Natural textures like cotton, linen, and woven baskets
- Neutrals with hints of blue and green
- Furniture with clean lines and a slight nod to vintage
- Open, airy spaces
- Black or high contrasting accents
- Medium wood tones
- Simple, understated or nature-inspired fabric patterns
Boom! That was me in a nutshell. And I’m betting, if your Pinterest boards feel all over the place, that they actually have a lot of similarities that will point you in the right direction for your home’s “game plan”.
2. Check out your own wardrobe.
When I looked through my closet and sifted through some of my favorite clothing pieces, I found the same thing I’d discovered in the commonalities among my inspiration photos: natural fabrics, textured details like fringe and lace, simple fabric prints (if any at all), and neutral colors with hints of blue and green mingled in.

I’m a jeans and simple T-shirt or light blouse kind of girl with casual booties or sandals. That’s my comfort zone.
If you love bright colors and fun patterns and sequins and glitz, embrace that same style in your home! Because that is YOU!
3. Examine your home’s architectural style.
If your house already has some character, make it shine.

If you live in a midcentury modern house, mingle in some midcentury mod furniture. If you have a more traditional home, lean traditional in maybe your light fixtures.
You don’t have to totally box yourself into one type of decorating style just because your house’s already established architectural style dictates that. Just throw in a nod to it and it’ll feel like it fits.
And if you have a builder grade house that is rather character-less, consider it a wild card and have fun with whatever style you want. ๐
4. Consider your and your family’s lifestyle.
We are a laid back bunch with little kids, so it makes sense for our family to have weathered tables that the kids can scuff up, slipcovered furniture that can be cleaned up in the wash, and vintage style rugs that hide stains really well.

Think about how your family functions, what your storage needs are, how you use each room in your home daily to decide what to do with it.
5. Think about what decor you already have and KonMari it.
Pick up each piece of decor (candle holder, throw pillow, vase, whatever) you have in your stash, one at a time, and if it doesn’t “spark joy”, right in the donation pile it goes.

Don’t waste time and money trying to make your existing decor work (only do that, if you really do love your existing pieces). Have a yard sale or sell it on Facebook marketplace and use that money to buy decor that does spark joy for you.
6. Decide what feeling you want your home to have as soon as you walk in.
When I come home, I want to feel peace and calm, so it makes sense that I stick to soothing blues and greens and accents that are more nature inspired. But maybe you want your home to feel energetic and upbeat or nostalgic with eclectic collections.

If you want more decorating guidance, you can subscribe and join the Bless’er House Budget Decorating Group. If you’ve been struggling with the style soul-searching, I hope this helped steer you a bit, at least.
I’m no Martha Stewart, but finding my style was the best thing I ever did to finally get some clarity and confidence on this decorating journey.
Didn’t Dolly Parton say, “Find out who you are and do it on purpose”? Find out your style on purpose while you’re at it too. ๐
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Thank you for sharing
Itโs wonderful touch
May I find chance to enjoy more and more
Thanks again
You are most welcome! I am happy to help and hear you enjoy it.
Great article! Know yourself and trust your own taste. Following other peoples taste will not make your house feel like home. Iโd like to add that our personal taste can often change over the years and thatโs totally normal. I wouldnโt be happy at 60 to be living with my 20โs choices. However, I can see how my base, underlying style sense hasnโt changed over the years. I like vintage, clean lines, comfortable furniture and white with black accents. I like green plants as opposed to flowers and lots of windows so I can see the outdoors no matter where I am in my homeโฆso, no fussy arrangements in vases and no heavy draperyโฆ.plants and minimal window treatments.
Not a very coherent comment but hopefully understandable, lol!
Yes!! This is perfectly stated! Thank you for your perspective and easily explained approach in decorating a home. ?
Hi Lauren! I just found your site, I was wondering to you think every room in the house should be the same style? At least in the same general style? I’ve always wondered that.
Hi. I would say it flows more smoothly to have the same general style or mesh of styles.
I was surprised to see you had parkaid flooring in one of your rooms. It looks very nice. We have it all on one floor of our home and have lived with it for 20 years and are now in the process of replacing it all. (Am I Crazy?). I seem to be obsessing with matching all the wood tones for the new flooring with the staircase and molding but it looks like you can mix different wood colors. Is that true? Any advice about that Lauren? Thank you.
Hi, Debbie. Our living room floor came this way when we bought the house. We have decided to keep it for now. And it is the only room in the house that has this style flooring. You can certainly mix it up if that is what you like. If you plan to sale your house I may recommend keeping it uniform. But if this is your forever home and you want to maximize your enjoyment, DO WHAT YOU LIKE. ๐ Love your space and create what you feel cozy coming home to.
I’ve followed your blog from the beginning but missed this post. We just mived into a new house and Im exploring my style. I love framed prints with the ocean and boats but my style isnt coastal. I love the relaxed atmosphere but I also love rich colored woods but with lots of white to offset that. I adore different shades of blue and have been surprised by how much green has inspired our decore. I like different textures, baskets, wood bowls and florals.
I have no idea what to call my style. Relaxed traditional?
I’m still learning haha