Messy House Tour 2019: Perspective Makeover

It’s here!!! My favorite post of the year!!! And you wanna know why? Because it is the fastest makeover on the planet. Yeah, a makeover. I said it.

You’re probably sitting there like, “Well, it finally happened. All of that inhaling sawdust and furniture paint has finally done it. Lauren has lost her mind.”

But let me tell you something…

The best, most beautiful makeover in the world isn’t one that requires $100,000 in renovations. It isn’t the kind that you would see on HGTV. It isn’t even the kind that requires you to open a single can of paint.

It’s the perspective kind.

Because if someone were to walk through our front door right now and see this circus that is our house some days (okay, let’s be honest… most days), I know they probably wouldn’t see what I do…

The beauty!

Olivia is now 7 and Regan just turned 1, and last week, Robert went out of town to visit a friend for a few days. So I told myself, “I’m not going to worry about how the house looks or what chores need to be done. I’m just going to stay in #survivalmode and love on my babies all I want.”

And you know what?

Toys ended up everywhere because we were laughing and playing.

Crayons ended up sprawled across every tabletop because imaginations were expanding.

Books were tossed all over the floors because minds were growing.

Dishes were left on countertops because tummies were filled.

Dirty laundry was overflowing out of hampers because memories were made out in the sunshine.

And y’all… there is nothing more beautiful than a lived in house with happy people dwelling in it.

Don’t get me wrong… the tantrums happen. The “mommy just needs 2 minutes to chill” happens. The “put your shoes on” phrase being repeated 8 times each morning is the norm (not usually including the word “please” in a sing-songy Mary Poppins voice, admittedly).

But one day, around 20 years from now, I’m going to miss it. The older I get, the faster time seems to slip by.

And while in the thick of this chaos, the anxiety can sometimes creep it, but I’m also SO thankful for all of this. Because there are days when it’s easy to take for granted.

If your house is “messy”, if your house feels like a “circus” most days, also know that it’s those messes and that chaos that make your house a home. Embrace it, mama. Every loud, dirt-covered second of it.

You’re gonna miss this. Even if it doesn’t feel like you will.

When Robert walked in the door from his trip on Saturday, all of us crashed on the couch for a nap, surrounded by the mess… that beautiful, beautiful mess.

Big BIG hugs, love. You’ve got this. And if you feel brave enough, share your own “messy house” using the hashtag #BlesserHotMess on Facebook & Instagram to keep the conversation going to embrace life over perfection.

If you want to see our past messy house tours, you can see them all here.

“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” Proverbs 24: 3-4

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    1. You are most welcome! Please know we all have these times when life gets ahead of us. Enjoy the life that is happening in your home. 🙂

  1. Thank you for the messy house tour. I have a pillow in a chair, in my kitchen, and it says, “Sorry about the mess, but we live here!” : ) All my friends want one, too!

  2. Thanks so much for the pics…I like you a lot better now! As a Great-Grandmother, I have lived with it all – from “shining perfection” to “where on earth is that ringing telephone” to “no, sweetie,
    those are not birdie’s eggs in your pockets; those are deer droppings”. The poem that helped me through raising a lot of kids (ours and other’s), reads “Cleaning and dusting can wait til’ tomorrow, For babies grow quickly, we’ve learned to our sorrow, So quiet down cobwebs and dust go sleep, I’m rocking a baby and babies don’t keep! (An oldy…but a goody).

  3. I thoroughly enjoyed seeing your beautiful home in real time! It’s still perfection. And may God bless you for your realness! Love it

    1. Thank you, Faith. I am so glad that I can let you all know what it looks like between the project reveals. 🙂

  4. Thank you for this refreshing and oh so relateable post! This is exactly what I needed to see today…lately I’ve been coming home from work and feeling like a failure because no matter how hard I try I just can’t seem to keep up with the mess. Our house is FAR from Pinterest perfect. There’s so much pressure on moms these days to “have it all” but really we’re all just a hot mess, some of us just hide it better than others!

  5. Thank you for sharing, your words brought tears to my eyes, it is true these days will go by so fast and you’ll long for them as I do. My daughter is now 30 years old and I get nostalgic thinking about raising her. Keep sharing it all you’re a blessings to us all…………

  6. I wasn’t able to have children. I would have loved to deal with a mess made by my babies. I babysat when I was young for a family. One boy he was 4 and a little girl. Their house was always a mess. The Mother was a full time school teacher so she worked every day. She once apologized for the mess and told me she would rather spend time with her children than keeping a perfect home. She would rather teach them and really be there for them. The time will come for them to leave soon enough. I thought that was so cool!

  7. I love this!! It’s probably my best blog ever read!! I’m now 62 and my “kids” are 32 & 36….I miss those days when there was so much activity and laughter. But now, I have grandsons ages 7 and 2…so I have to remind myself after they’ve left and the living room is a mess…memories are in the making. Just like years ago when their mommy and uncle were young. Blessings to you sweet girl & your beautiful family.

  8. The most important thing in your life our your children. the echos of a clean house are real.The sounds are not in the pictures but I can hear them.Laughter and giggles and the pure joy of being real♥Thanks so much for the reminders of what I so miss. God bless you and yours. NanaNinja♥

  9. I absolutely LOVE this post! My favorite post yet. This is exactly what real life looks like and reminds me to be a little less hard on myself. Thanks so much for this Lauren! You look like you had a great time doing the most important job of all being a mom.

  10. I’ve probably posted this before but your words today reminded me of this poem that hung in our (your) home when you were growing up. Love you!

    Some houses try to hide the fact
    That children shelter there;
    Ours boasts of it quite openly,
    The signs are everywhere.
    For smears are on the windows,
    Little smudges on the doors;
    I should apologize, I guess,
    For toys strewn on the floor.
    But I sat down with the children
    And we played and laughed and read;
    And if the doorbell doesn’t shine,
    Their eyes will shine instead.
    For when at times I’m forced to choose
    The one job or the other;
    I’d like to cook and clean and scrub,
    But first I’ll be a mother.

    Author: Unknown

  11. I’m sobbing. I’m a stay at home mom of 4. 2 boys, 11 and 8, and 2 girls, 3 next month and 7 months. My 8 year old has special needs. My husband works nights. My 7 month old still wont sleep at night, and my toddler is straight up defiant in every aspect of life. My mom passed away after a battling cancer last month. 2 days after her funeral I had a emergency gallbladder surgery.
    My house is a disaster and with all I have going on, I just cannot keep up. And it bothers me down to my very core. But this post was like a hug on my broken heart. I’m doing my best.and that’s ok. Thank you got sharing real life. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

    1. Oh bless you Bethany!! I’m sorry about your mom-that’s such a hard person to lose. I guarantee you are doing an amazing job!

  12. Your girls are not going to remember how clean the house was, they will remember you getting in the floor to play, cuddling on the couch to read a pile of books and drawing pictures. Make those memories because just like you said these days are passing by fast and you will miss it. My babies are 18 and 20. I miss the pile of toys in the floor, sink full of dirty dishes and mountains of dirty laundry. Well maybe not the laundry! Enjoyed your real life blog post!

  13. Thank you for this! It’s hard being a full-time working mother of three children under the age of 8 to keep my house looking the way I’d like it. It’s always scattered with toys, Poke-mon cards, dress up clothes, Lego creations, etc. And not just in the dedicated playroom – it’s all over the house. When I scroll through all the décor blogs, I don’t know how any blogger with young children can possibly pull off those perfect looks all the time. Even though I know it’s unrealistic, it still gets me down. I appreciate you being honest – this is life with young children and we are all right to enjoy it while it lasts!

    1. No, you are not losing it! My kids are 20 and 23 and I still have several of their childhood toys and lots of their books. There is somethIng magical about those special books that were their favorites and that were read over and over at bedtime, and childrens books remind me of simpler times before the internet and social media took over our world. Besides, maybe we will have grand babies someday to love on and share those toys and books with❤️

      1. Vicki I am looking forward to that day when I can sit down and re-read all those childhood books to the grandbabies. <3

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